The Girl Behind the Pen

One of the biggest mistakes in life is to think that talent alone is enough to be great, successful, and become a high achiever. 

Sure talent can be a huge factor that could lead you to your dream—whether it's landing on your dream role, launching an album, or anything your heart desires—but when you start to believe that it is the most essential piece to the puzzle of victory, you have built up a wall all on your own that instead of success, will only lead to failure in life.

Everyone has a different journey. Let's say there are these two equally talented individuals—one achieved the things he has always imagined while the other one faced the greatest downfall he didn't expect at all. 

If they were "equally" talented, why did they end up on different sides of the world? The only difference between these two individuals is the effort they made.

The latter was only relying on talent alone. At first, it was going good but as time passed, everyone is also getting better until he couldn't catch up anymore. Why? Because he didn't make an effort to improve himself or to learn new things. He was so confident that his talent is enough to lead him to success.

But let me tell you this, from my personal experience and from what I've observed from other people, just because you are extremely talented at something doesn’t guarantee that you will have long-term success, and the moment you stop nurturing and developing your talent, someone else with less talent is working day and night to beat you. I know this because I saw some people who became like this.

When you work in the media, it allows you to meet different kinds of people from all walks of life. And some that I met were like the latter person. But most importantly, I know this because I experienced this myself.

I may not have the 10+ years of work experience to justify my claims nonetheless, I believe that claims are qualified when it's based on personal experience regardless of the amount of time you've spent working. 

When I was still studying, I dreamed of becoming a writer for a teen magazine. Honestly, I wasn't so confident that I can get a job in a prestigious company because there are so many people who write better than me. But you know what, it didn't stop me from getting what I want. And guess what? I stood out. Why? Because I had something great to offer that others didn't have, that's my blog. Back then, blogging was not a huge thing yet. I got in. And they didn't. Why? Because they got scared and followed the "rules". 

A few months later, I wanted to try something new. I applied for a job at a competitor TV Network, but this time, the job mainly focused on TV production which I have no idea or interest in at all. I told myself before graduating that I will never ever work for TV Productions, specifically in the news. That's my most weakness. But then, opportunity knocks, and I wouldn't let my weakness scares me off. So I applied and got in. A few months later, I got promoted, earlier than other people. It led me to meet new people from the average to high-rank officials that became good connections of mine that helped me expand my career.

This is not to brag but just to tell you that stepping out of your comfort zone can really make a huge difference. I wasn't the best writer or producer and every day, I get assigned more and more difficult tasks and projects that made me cry on some days (and nights). I thought if these people believe that I can do it, then why shouldn't I? 

In short years, I realized, you don't have to be too talented to make it. Like Master Pakku from the Nickelodeon series Avatar: The Last Airbender has said, "With fierce and determination, passion, and hard work, you can accomplish anything. Raw talent alone is not enough."

1. Do something every day to develop and nurture your talent. Even if it's just a little task or a new hobby, just do it. A little knowledge can go a long way.

2. If things get hard, don't be scared. Face it. Challenge yourself and take on difficult tasks. Look for opportunities to test yourself and keep pushing yourself to see how far you can go.

3. Work hard on the things that will make a difference. Work hard to learn. Work hard and accept the feedback. Work hard at getting better. Always.

4. Don't be shy to ask for help. It doesn't make you less of a person. Surround yourself with like-minded people and use their talents to help you grow and perform and vice versa. That's what teams are about. 

To end this article, I want to leave you with a quote from Tim Notke that sums up everything I have been trying to say: 

“Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.”

Pants from Zaful | Choker from Dresslily

With the emerging fashion-centric hit series from one platform to another, there's nothing quite phenomenal like the Gossip Girl.

The crazy rich teenagers from the Upper East Side have dominated the fashion industry that result to serious sartorialust since 2007. From Serena van der Woodsen’s luxe bohemian aesthetic featuring silky miniskirts and textured jackets and Jenny Humphrey’s rocker chick evolution to Blair Waldorfs preppy posh look, these Upper East Siders have taken the New York streets (and the world) by storm.

From the launch of cult-like trends — headbands — to the crème de la crème of designer duds, it was Queen B who reigned supreme. Blair, played by Leighton Meester, was always one step ahead of the style pack. She was a classic beauty with a royally bold disposition, and her polished style translated into the masterful portrayal that captured the hearts of tastemakers around the globe. 

I've rounded up some of the pieces you should have to achieve Queen B's style. With these, you'll definitely know how to dress like Blair Waldorf. 

It's not a Blair Waldorf look without the headband. If you want to know how to dress like Blair Waldorf, you should put this on top of your list. Headbands are Blair's signature accessory.  From tartan and sequined to satin, Blair wears her headbands in every style you can imagine. In case you didn't notice, there's always a headband for every occasion. 

Searching how to dress like Blair Waldorf on Google will lead you to hundreds of girly looks. Blair doesn't wear pants so much. She loves to wear dresses and skirts. Here, I wore a skirt from Rosewholesale. You can find other styles perfect for your liking on their website.

What I like about Blair is that she is a total girly-girl at heart, which makes this style perfect for me because I am, too. While I'm not a billionaire, at least we have something in common—love for all things girly.

Blair loves to incorporate feminine touches like lace, bows, and ruffles, into her outfits. This is also her go-to look for formal events and parties so if it's still not clear to you on how to dress like Blair Waldorf, remember this one word: girly.

Blair never goes out without a trendy bag matching her outfit of the day. She always makes sure that her bag, purse, clutch, or wallet will suit her outfit. I also got this bag from Rosewholesale!

Now that you know more about how to dress like Blair Waldorf, what do you think? Do you love Blair’s style, or are you more of a Serena or Jenny? 

Skirt and Bag from Rosewholesale