You Don't Have to Try so Hard

Sunday, July 20, 2014

I've always thought that trying so hard will make everything fine; that it'll make everything goes according to plan. In fact, my motto before was try and try until you succeed. Okay, until now.
Well, there's really nothing wrong with trying so much to achieve what you want. It's good because it makes you eager for your goals. But sometimes, you know, you don't have to try so hard. Sometimes, trying so hard leads us to expectations and failures. I'm not trying to say that you shouldn't try hard. My point is, know when to try hard. Know what your goals are first; know your aim; know the main reason of your moves before giving in to something so much. Why are you trying so hard? Ask that to yourself.
Is it because you want to pursue that dream? Well, go for it!
Is it because you want to belong? Hmm. Let me thing about that. And you should, too!
I don't see any problem of wanting to belong or to please others. A problem will only blow if you let others heat up your emotions, hence, ruining your self-worth. Once you let them affect you, it won't stop. It will eat you until you're messed up. Don't focus and bother so much time on what others are telling you. Who cares if you don't wear makeup everyday? You still look pretty anyway! Who cares if you don't have the best and most expensive clothes to wear? You still look stunning on that tee and ripped jeans! 
This is the perfect idea to describe my outfit here 'cause I didn't bother to plan an outfit like I used to and I looked haggard after so many days without enough sleep. Who cares? As long as I look okay to my family and friends then it's fine. And as long as I feel okay the way I see with my own eyes then just go with it. The secret is, if no one sees your beauty, learn to appreciate yourself because that is where it all starts. I just want to share a song of Colbie Caillat that inspired me to write this. So here it goes:

You don't have to try so hard
You don't have to, give it all away
You just have to get up
You don't have to change a single thing

Wait a second,
Why, should you care, what they think of you

When you're all alone, by yourself, do you like you?
Do you like you?

Take your make-up off
Let your hair down

Take a breath
Look into the mirror, at yourself

Don't you like you?

Cause I like you

Sorry for my silly pose here. I'm not gonna do this again swear :( Did I make sense? Anyways, I hope you get something from my post.
Let me know if you did! ♥

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  1. great:) xx

  2. Cute, purple looks great on you. Love your text.

  3. I loooove how you look effortlessly beautiful in this post. :)

  4. Nice look,kisses.

  5. That dress looks adorable. Love it :)


  6. I totally understand where you are coming from. We should try hard to impress other people, because the only confirmation we need is from ourselves. Great post girl. Loving the dress on you. Not that it should matter but I do think you look beautiful ;)

    Lauren xo
    Sophisticated In Style

    1. Yes. We need to please ourselves first before others. And what's more important is that we should care less about what others say (negative ones, though). Aww thank you for the compliment Lauren! :)

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  8. you look very nice! great dress!!

  9. Love the purple! Check out my blog for the latest eyewear trends and let me know what you think.

  10. I love the color of your dress :) I just found your blog & i love it :)

  11. You're so cute! And I love the color of the dress!

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  12. Love your style, and great advice!! :)
    xx Cara

  13. You are so adorable!! And I love that song, so sweet :)

    ♥ Erika from STYLE AND SUNDRY (

    1. Thank you! Totally! One of the best songs now :)

  14. cute dress! love the pop of colour! :)

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  16. aww love reading this Cielo, it somehow reminded me of my goals <3 Love the dress on you btw <3

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  17. Great outfit! Really cute dress!


  18. cute dress on you!


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  20. Dress and Photos are lovely :)


  21. you're so gorgeous in this look!! love it ♥ ♥

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  22. Such great look on you, I love the refreshing color

  23. Nice outfit dear :)

  24. Lovely dress, the pictures are so great, you look very pretty :)
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  25. lovely!

  26. Lovely post! I know what you mean. It gets exhausting to just try and try without any success. Sometimes you just got to let go.

    Miss Anna Rebecka

  27. have a wonderful day sweety!


  28. Beautiful outfit and even more beautiful words! Thanks for sharing your lovely post!


    xo Jess

  29. Most people want to please other people. It makes them feel like they are accepted and that gives them a sense of belongingness. But I think it is very naive to think like that. You don't have to be accepted by other people. You have to accept yourself. You belong to you and not to anyone else.

    Great post dear!

    The Pink Lemonade Girl

    1. High five on this! Haha. I can feel what you have said. We don't have to think too much on how people will accept us, but we really can't help it sometimes because it really matters at the back of our minds :)

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